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Finding Hope in the Chaos: A Journey Toward Love and Connection

“I’m in my early 40s now, and I often find myself dreaming about settling down with someone who’s just as down-to-earth as I am. I’ve always been pretty patient, even with all the curveballs life has thrown my way. But these past few years? They’ve been a real test. I was with a guy for three years before we tied the knot, and we stayed married for eight. We moved to Ohio, but somewhere along the line, we just lost our connection, and I found myself in a marriage where love was missing. Before all that, I lost my dad in a horrible car accident, which broke my heart in ways I can’t even describe. And then, I had to part with one of my dogs because no one listened when I said he needed a fenced yard. He got into a scuffle with a neighbor’s dog, though thankfully, the neighbor was kind about it, understanding it was an accident.

After my marriage ended, I had to start over quicker than I’d planned. With a job in retail and the economy being what it is, I knew I’d have a hard time. I tried to explain this to my ex-mother-in-law, but she went ahead and bought a house for me to rent from her without asking if it was what I wanted. I was grateful for her help, but it also left me feeling pretty alone and misunderstood.

Before all that, I fell for a scam that took away money I’d worked hard for, landing me in debt. My uncle was there for me, helping me file for bankruptcy under

Chapter 7

. I still kick myself for being so naive, but I guess I was just desperate for some support. There’s this deep longing inside me to find someone who loves me for who I am, who wants to build a life and maybe a family with me. I’ve had people tell me I should lose weight, and there’s even been worry that any kids I might have could inherit autism.

I’m not perfect, far from it, and I’ve made plenty of mistakes. But through it all, I’ve learned how vital it is to be genuine, honest, and open. When you meet someone, there should be this deep connection, an understanding, and a bond that goes beyond words.

I’m not usually one to spill my guts like this, but I think it’s important for people to know we’re all human, we all screw up. Sharing our stories, whether face-to-face or online, helps us connect, and reminds us we’re not each other’s enemies.

My hope now is that when I move to California to be near my family, I’ll meet that one guy who captures not just my heart but my soul and mind too. I want someone who’ll sweep me off my feet like the wind, someone I can protect as much as he protects me. I crave the simplicity of life with him, the quiet moments untouched by the world’s chaos. I yearn for those deep, meaningful conversations that I feel I can’t live without. I might be old-fashioned at heart, even if I’m pretty good with tech. I just hope that man out there isn’t too scared to find me, even when I’m not looking.”

May 26, 2025

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Love at My Own Pace: An Autistic Woman’s Journey

As an autistic woman, love feels like a vivid, intricate tapestry—beautiful, overwhelming, and sometimes hard to unravel. For me, it’s not just an emotion; it’s a sensory experience, a rhythm that can either ground me or throw me off balance. Being autistic shapes how I give and receive love in ways that don’t always align with what people expect. My brain processes everything deeply—every touch, every word, every quiet moment—so love isn’t just a feeling, it’s a full-body immersion. Sometimes that intensity is a gift, letting me connect with someone in a way that feels almost cosmic. Other times, it’s a challenge, because the world’s unspoken rules about love can feel like a language I’m still learning to speak.

I’m extremely patient and easygoing, even when life throws lemons at me—and trust me, it’s tossed plenty. That patience isn’t something I had to force; it’s just part of who I am. Maybe it’s the autism, giving me this ability to sit with discomfort and not let it derail me, or maybe it’s the way I’ve learned to adapt to a world that doesn’t always make space for me. Though I’ve adapted to changes in my life, some of it was hard to swallow and hard to understand—especially when I was married for eight years and my spouse never once told me he loved me, even as I poured those words out to him. That silence was a lemon I couldn’t sweeten, no matter how patient I tried to be. I’d say “I love you,” hoping it would spark something, anything—a mirror to my own heart. But the absence of those words felt like a void, a rejection I couldn’t decode. As an autistic person, I crave clarity, and that lack of reciprocation left me spinning, questioning if love was even there.

Unlike some autistic folks, I don’t have sensory issues with touch—just when things get fast. I love the warmth of a hug, the weight of a hand in mine, the quiet intimacy of closeness. It’s soothing, grounding, a way to feel tethered to someone I care about. But when the pace picks up—when emotions or actions come rushing at me like a tidal wave—it’s too much. I enjoy being able to process things at my own pace, to let love unfold slowly, like a flower I can study petal by petal. That’s when touch feels safe and meaningful; I can savor it, let it sink in without my senses scrambling to keep up. In that marriage, the silence wasn’t just about words—it was the speed of disconnection, the way things moved too fast or not at all, leaving me no room to breathe or understand.

That’s why love languages mean so much to me. They’re like a map, a way to navigate the chaos and communicate what I need—and what I want to give—without getting lost in translation. Words of affirmation, especially, are a lifeline; hearing “I love you” or “I’m here” in clear, direct terms cuts through the noise in my head and anchors me. In those eight years, I didn’t get those words, and it left a hole—one I didn’t even know how to name until I learned how much they mattered. Acts of service or quality time, though, can speak just as loudly when they’re deliberate and steady, giving me the space to process them my way. I don’t need love to be flashy or rushed—I need it to match my rhythm, to let me catch my breath and feel it fully.

As a woman, there’s this added layer—society often expects me to be nurturing or intuitive in ways that don’t always come naturally. I might not pick up on subtle hints or flirt in the “typical” way, but my love is fierce and deliberate. I bring that same patience and ease to relationships, letting things grow at their own pace, not forcing what doesn’t fit—even when it’s taken years to understand why some things never did. I adapted to that marriage and kept loving through the silence because I could handle the slow burn of uncertainty. But I thrive when love meets me where I am when it’s steady enough for me to process and deep enough to feel real.

Love languages give me a structure to express that, to say “This is how I love you” without having to mask who I am. They let my partner see me—not just the autistic me or the woman me, but the whole, messy, authentic me who can laugh off life’s lemons while still feeling their sting, who can adapt to silence but blooms when given space to process at my own pace. And when someone speaks my love language back—whether it’s a quiet “I love you,” a gentle touch that lingers just right, or a moment of undivided time—it’s like they’re saying, “I see you, and I’m choosing to meet you where you are.” After eight years of missing that, I know now it’s not just a want—it’s a need. That’s everything.

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May 26, 2025

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Storytelling with Photography

What’s your dream job?

My dream job would be to blend storytelling with my photography. I find the idea of combining these two arts incredibly intriguing, envisioning how they could come together to create compelling narratives in book form.

However, I’ve been struggling to keep Chris Pine as my muse due to the presence of scammers and impersonators who exploit his name for deceitful purposes. Despite these challenges, the way Chris Pine brings stories to life through his characters and films has deeply inspired my approach to storytelling through photography. His influence has shaped my vision, pushing me to explore how images can tell stories just as powerfully as words.

But aside from all that, my dream job would be amazing, and I hope to accomplish it over time.

January 30, 2025

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What’s the trait you value most about yourself?

What I value

Today, I wanted to take a moment to reflect on a trait that I truly value in myself: being a great listener. In a world that often feels chaotic and overwhelming, there are so many people out there who just need someone to listen to them. Being that person who offers a compassionate ear can be incredibly powerful. When someone feels heard, it can lift a tremendous weight off their shoulders and provide a sense of relief and connection.

However, as I ponder on this, I realize that it’s not just one trait that defines us or makes us valuable. It’s the beautiful tapestry of multiple qualities that we possess. Kindness, compassion, generosity, and the ability to bring joy to others are all equally important. Each of these traits contributes to who we are and how we impact the world around us.

So, while I am proud of being a great listener, I also recognize the importance of celebrating all the other wonderful traits we hold dear. Let’s take a moment to appreciate and value the many facets of our personalities. After all, it’s the combination of these qualities that makes us unique and capable of making a positive difference in the lives of others.

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September 27, 2024

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Being imperfect

To be imperfect means to embrace the unique qualities and flaws that make us human. It signifies understanding that perfection is an unattainable ideal and that our imperfections are what give us character and depth. Being imperfect means making mistakes, learning from them, and growing. It involves accepting ourselves as we are, with all our strengths and weaknesses, and recognizing that our imperfections can lead to personal growth, creativity, and deeper connections with others. Ultimately, to be imperfect is to be authentically human, celebrating the journey of life with all its ups and downs.

Embracing imperfection can significantly contribute to personal growth by fostering self-acceptance and resilience. When we acknowledge that it’s okay to make mistakes, we develop a healthier relationship with ourselves, characterized by self-love and compassion. This mindset allows us to view imperfections and errors as valuable learning opportunities, enhancing our skills and strategies over time. By letting go of the pursuit of perfection, we reduce stress and open ourselves up to creativity and innovation. Authenticity flourishes as we accept our true selves, leading to deeper, more genuine relationships. Additionally, recognizing our own flaws cultivates empathy and compassion towards others, fostering a supportive community. Ultimately, embracing imperfection empowers us to take risks, try new things, and live a more relaxed and fulfilling life.

September 24, 2024

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What would the world be like if we all pitched in and help each other?

Imagine a world where helping each other is second nature. In this world, we’d feel more connected, turning neighbors into friends and reducing loneliness. Communities would be safer and more nurturing.

Economically, sharing resources and opportunities would lift many out of poverty and reduce inequality. Small businesses would thrive, and education and healthcare would be more accessible.

Our environment would benefit too. Communities would unite to protect natural resources, leading to more sustainable practices like community gardens and renewable energy projects.

On a personal level, helping others brings fulfillment and purpose. Acts of kindness inspire more kindness, creating a compassionate and empathetic society. Our mental and emotional well-being would improve, as helping others reduces stress and increases happiness.

In this vision, we’d see stronger communities, economic prosperity, environmental sustainability, and better well-being. Let’s strive to make this a reality, one act of kindness at a time

September 23, 2024

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Goals

What ways can you encourage others and their goals.

Encouraging others and supporting their goals is something I find incredibly rewarding. I try to show genuine interest by really listening to their ideas and offering positive feedback that highlights their strengths. I love being supportive, whether it’s through giving advice, sharing resources, or celebrating their milestones, no matter how small. I often share useful materials like books or contacts that might help them, and I try to set an example by pursuing my own goals with determination. I encourage a growth mindset by helping them see challenges as opportunities for growth, and I make an effort to be patient, offering encouragement even when progress seems slow. I help them stay focused on their goals, offer to be an accountability partner, and remind them to take care of themselves. I also try to introduce them to helpful contacts, share inspiring success stories, and always express my belief in their abilities. By doing these things, I hope to provide meaningful encouragement and support to others as they work towards their goals.

September 23, 2024

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Wishful thinking

What change, big or small, would you like your blog to make in the world?

It’s just wishful thinking, but I hope my blog can reach people all around the world, including famous actors like Chris Pine and many others. I enjoy writing because I want to make a difference in someone’s life, whether they’re famous or not. My goal is for my blog to circulate globally and hopefully help someone, regardless of their status. One of the many things I’ve learned about Chris Pine is that he loves helping people and enjoys making a positive impact. If I could find a way to help others through my writing, graphic design, photography, or community involvement, that would be amazing. This includes my blog as a platform for making a difference.

September 23, 2024

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What are you doing this evening?

Rethinking about things in life that matter to me. I know I need to change the way I think, the way I feel, and everything else. I want to refocus my energy on my photography, graphic design, and blogging. I know it’s OK to have a favorite actor and everything else, but I definitely have to watch when infatuation comes into play because it can randomly take over my mind a little bit and make me more stressed out than anything.

Goals that I am considering:

Photography Goals:
1. Build a Portfolio: Add new photos monthly.
2. Learn Techniques: Take courses and experiment with different styles.
3. Share Work: Start a blog or Instagram and post weekly.
4. Enter Contests: Participate in photography competitions.
5. Network: Join photography clubs or online communities.
6. Offer Services: Start offering photography services locally or online.
Graphic Design Goals:
1. Build a Portfolio: Showcase a variety of design projects.
2. Learn Software: Take courses to learn new design tools.
3. Share Work: Start a design blog or social media page.
4. Freelance: Offer design services to clients.
5. Collaborate: Work with other creatives on projects.
6. Personal Projects: Set specific design challenges for yourself.
Blogging Goals:
1. Define Niche: Choose main topics to cover.
2. Content Calendar: Plan and post regularly.
3. Engage Audience: Respond to comments and encourage feedback.
4. Monetize: Explore ways to earn from your blog.
5. Track Progress: Use analytics to understand what works.
I am hoping these goals can help me stay focused and make progress in my creative pursuits. And since Chris Pine is my favorite actor, I know this is probably something he would encourage me to do.
September 20, 2024

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